Why
Most People Fail At Self-Help Programs
What’s
the difference between people who succeed in getting what they
want and people who don’t? It’s how they view the
self-help programs. In fact, the answer is in the name “self-help”.
Self-help programs are usually home-study courses, books, or seminars
of some sort where the person must use the information or the
trainer to make positive, permanent change in their lives. The
thing to point out here is that it is “self-help”.
The person must help themselves.
A lot of people
stumble from one self-help program to another without getting
any real results. Why is this? Are the programs ineffective? No.
People endlessly go onto the next ‘magic pill’ because
they are counting on the external product to do all the work and
‘cure’ them. This isn’t going to happen.
The only difference
between someone who gets results in a program and people who don’t
is how they view their personal responsibility. Stop for a moment
and ask yourself, “When you order a book, a tape, go to
a seminar, and so on, what are your expectations?” The best
mindset I’ve found to get tangible results is to treat whatever
information you’re learning as a set of tools you’ve
been given. It’s now up to you to use them.
Imagine there
are two different people: Harold and Jarrod. Harold blames all
the self-help programs for being a bunch of garbage for not solving
his problems and views the self-help leaders as ‘con artists’
who took his money without providing him real value. Therefore,
he ambles aimlessly to the next product that he believes will
be his ‘magic pill’ that will do all the work for
him. He views himself as a victim and is locked into that outlook.
Contrast Harold
to Jarrod. Jarrod understands that all the information he gets
as a set of tools for him to apply and use to change his own life:
to help himself. Jarrod gets it. Jarrod can create massive, beneficial
changes with 1/10 of the programs Harold buys because he applies
everything he learns.
My point to
you is that if I am studying a book or course and not getting
results and my buddy is studying the same book or course and getting
results, there is proof right now that the system works. I’m
not a victim. We both have the same course. So what’s the
difference? The only difference is between him and me. I’ve
got to step up and take responsibility. A good idea for me would
be to go model him by asking him specific questions about what
he is doing. In other words, I’ll sort out what he is doing
differently from me and I’ll start doing things differently.
The bottom line here is that self-help programs can be as great
as you make them. Apply EVERYTHING you learn, at least once to
test it out. If it doesn’t work, do something else. If it
does work, awesome! Personal responsibility is always present
in SELF-help programs. Be Jarrod, not Harold.
Kent Sayre
is a worldwide persuasion expert and author of “The Ultimate
Persuasion Formula” available at: www.TheUltimatePersuasionFormula.com
Furthermore, he is the author of the bestselling book “Unstoppable
Confidence” endorsed by such celebrity authors as Brian
Tracy, Robert Allen, and Jim Rohn.
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